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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2014 13:19:04 GMT 1
Until getting to know one of my neighbour, I didn't realise DS children have a good quality of life, and live longer. They have so much love to give. This is two weeks ago at his 42 year birthday party.  |
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Post by Banshee on Jun 21, 2014 8:45:08 GMT 1
Hi Milk- do you think it a good idea to put up your picture? Also have you got your neighour's permission to put his photo up on this forum? I'm just thinking that there has been real names mentioned a few times on this forum and we are supposed to be anonymous.
Just a thought. :-)
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 9:20:12 GMT 1
Hi Banshee, yes I did ask permission when it was taken, in fact it was his mother who took it. You notice I haven't mentioned his name. Although you make a valid point. My mobile takes good pictures (8 Pixel Nokia Lumia) or maybe it's it's down to how's taking it - i.e. not me.  He comes round to see us almost every night. Never heard a word of cheek or swearing off him and he has a loving kind nature. Sadly there could be people who could advantage of this. |
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Post by Banshee on Jun 21, 2014 9:37:32 GMT 1
Was just concerned as he is an adult not a child, and would be assumed to have capacity to make his own decisions, so I would hope that it was he himself who gave you permission and not his mother.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 10:03:02 GMT 1
Adult..........well yes and no. I can assure you he's OK with it.
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Post by Banshee on Jun 21, 2014 10:25:38 GMT 1
I thought you said it was his 42nd birthday- so he is an adult then.
People with DS are not children. yes they may need support with a lot of daily living activities, managing money etc, but they are still adults, and are assumed to have capacity to make their own decision unless assessed as not having capacity to make certain decisions. (and assessment is decision specific)
yes adults with DS will be vulnerable to exploitation etc but still have rights, and should not be seen as being children.
Have you got other adult neighbours who you have "Never heard a word of cheek or swearing off" and who have "a loving kind nature?"
Would you mention that fact when talking about other adults?
You know some adults with LD have partners, have sex lives, have jobs and hold tenancies. They are not children.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 11:26:20 GMT 1
Honestly I think your making far more of this, and may I say a little patronising. I am aware of the differences in DS people. I don't wish to discuss this person's abilities. I think you know me well enough to know I wouldn't post anything inappropriate and I'm disappointed you think I would.
I afraid you'll just have to trust me, which I would have thought you would have done without question.
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Post by Banshee on Jun 22, 2014 15:19:59 GMT 1
Hi Milk, I didn't mean to be patronising, it was just the title of the thread was "children" and he is an adult. And I just feel very strongly about people treating adults with LD as children. That's all. :-)
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2014 18:36:45 GMT 1
Was just concerned as he is an adult not a child, and would be assumed to have capacity to make his own decisions, so I would hope that it was he himself who gave you permission and not his mother. That's the trouble He's 42 but you'd think he's a child. The message is to anyone with, or expecting a DS child.............don't panic they are wonderful and loving. |
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Post by Banshee on Jun 28, 2014 18:02:05 GMT 1
Was just concerned as he is an adult not a child, and would be assumed to have capacity to make his own decisions, so I would hope that it was he himself who gave you permission and not his mother. That's the trouble He's 42 but you'd think he's a child. The message is to anyone with, or expecting a DS child.............don't panic they are wonderful and loving. But he is not a child. He is an adult and needs to be treated like an adult, and not a child. Yes you need to make some allowances for his difficulties, but he is still firstly an adult. Your post was titled " Down syndrome children" Bit confusing when you then showed and talked about an adult. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2014 20:34:50 GMT 1
Yes, but have you checked out the good looking guy with him???
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Post by Banshee on Jul 6, 2014 14:58:43 GMT 1
yeah ok. LOl. Issue resolved. You just stumbled onto one of my pet hates. :-)
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